Can you do S&M without the sex ?

I’m interested in knowing if any of you out there are satisfied after a scene if there is no vanilla style sex involved? I’m keen to act out a scene like this but finding it trickier than expected to find a willing Sadist (i.e.: willing to inflict pain but not have it lead to sex) […]

How to attend to a disobedient sub?

Ok, as I’ve had this come up recently (and acted upon it) I wondered how others would react to the following, so I’m going to set the scene and wonder what You would do… There is this submissive in your life. You met him over the internet and met up in real life to see […]

What is it that you Mistresses adore, fantasize about?

Can it be done? What is it that you Mistresses adore, fantasize about. What qualities do you wish your servants had more of? Impeccable presence, hygiene? Courteous, respectful mannerisms? What’s the best way to impress a Mistress’s, tender heart? Stopping short of charm school, what behaviors are pre-requisites for most of you? Answers: I assume […]

How do I choose my Domme Name?

I’ve got to choose a name to go by as a domme. I’m wanting some tips for a name. I’ve been brainstorming with friends and I am still not sure because nothing is ‘coming to me’. I would like some practical advice and any other tips that are helpful. Answers : A lot depends on […]

Do male subs need to be weak, sissy, pathetic morsels?

Do male subs need to be weak, sissy, pathetic morsels? I want strong powerful men to control, men who can help me get the things I want in life, not just lick my shoes. How should a girl go about finding and dominating successful, powerful guys? Answers: Male subs are not all weak, are not […]

What can a domme do with a lazy sub?

Help me out here girls… I have a sub who I enjoy playing with and enjoy having around me, except he lives in my home with my husband and his girlfriend, and “we three” are all a decade older than my sub. We are at a point in our lives were we “get” the idea […]

What are your first memories of dominant or kinky tendencies?

What are your first memories of behaviors that exhibited dominant or kinky tendencies? Answers: About 4 or 5 years old, outside, standing while a group of other kids is sitting on the ground around me, and me telling them they weren’t doing it right and going on to lecture them on exactly what they were […]

What is your femdom philosophy?

Many people identify with ‘femdom’ – but it can mean very different things to different people. I suggest there are several distinct ‘femdom philosophies’, although some people may hold a hybrid of these very different femdom perspectives- or perhaps others. I am attempting to outline some different philosophies. Please comment if you identify if one […]

Why does a women want to dominate a man?

I have found on information about who can dominate who (e.g. women can dominate a man), what female domination is, where women can dominate a man, when women can dominate a man, how women can dominate a man, but I have not really found information on WHY a woman wants to dominate men. For me, […]