A great many things come naturally to my wife. She’s super smart and incredibly capable. There aren’t many things that she can’t quickly figure out. One of these things; however, happens to be tease and denial. She just has a tough time with it. Doing it. Understanding it. Understanding what it does to, and for, me.
So I thought about ways I could help her better understand the dynamic of tease and denial, focusing first on the “how”. I jotted down a bunch of tease and denial ideas she could pick from at any given time. I thought this would take the thinking, and some of the pressure, out of it for her.
I didn’t want these ideas to read like a script, so I made a rule that I’d keep each to a single sentence if possible, two at the most. However, I kept wanting to write more. Then it hit me. Much of what I wanted to add to each idea was the same from one to the next. In other words, the core of the idea was unique, but what surrounded that core in regard to the overall “scene” was repeating itself.
This led me to create a framework for how to make almost any tease and denial scene intense, at least for me. This framework has 5 stages, as follows.
Stage One – Excite and Arouse
An intense tease and denial scene start with getting the subject all revved up sexually, so naturally, the first step is to make this happen. For me, whether I am in my chastity device or not, this stage always feels great. The possibilities are endless, and for many, this comes naturally, and for others, it doesn’t.
My wife’s touch excites me. Smelling her perfume. Nuzzling my nose into the nape of her neck. Gazing at her naked body. I love it when she presents her lips for me to kiss, then pulls them back as I lunge forward to meet them. So frustrating, yet so sexy.
It really doesn’t matter what you do. As long as you get your partner sexually charged, you’ve done your job.
Stage Two – Build Intensity and Anticipation
The intensity of a tease and denial scene has a lot to do with the length of time your partner is kept aroused. If the arousal is quick, the intensity level of the denial will be relatively low. If your partner is kept sexually charged for a longer period of time, the intensity level of the denial will be much higher. If your partner doesn’t know whether or not the tease will end in denial, or something else, the anticipation of what is to come builds.
I like to think of it like a rubber band being twisted. The more you tease and the more sexually charged your partner gets, the more the rubber band is twisted. Tease a little, then let go, and the rubber band barely unwinds. Tease a lot, continually twisting the rubber band, and let go. Bam!
When you deny your partner in a highly wound state, the resulting impact is heightened greatly. And if your partner enjoys the feeling of being denied, they won’t know what hit them. So bottom line, whatever you are doing, let it linger, let it boil, let his or her anticipation for what is to come build up, and up, and up, their rubber bands twisting ever so tightly.
Stage Three – Denial
If you’ve wound your partner up good in Step Two, it’s now time to let the rubber band loose. Deny them. Say “no”, or “sorry, not tonight” or whisper in their ear “I know how much you want me right now, but you can’t have me”. Or tie it back to something they didn’t do for you that day by saying “sorry, next time you won’t forget to make my coffee in the morning”. Do it any way you want.
Your partner’s brain will go into survival mode; doing everything it can to hold onto the massive dose of excitement, arousal and anticipation you’ve built up. However, it’s escaping quickly, like air rushing out of a popped balloon, and they can’t do anything about it.
It’s as if they were holding a huge wad of cash, and a big gust came along and each bill went flying into the air. They claw at the bills frantically, trying to snatch them from the air, but they are all over the place and are quickly out of reach.
If your partner enjoys tease and denial, they will be in heaven, yet at the same time, totally frustrated, and completely desperate…which brings us to the next stage.
Stage Four – Empathy
If your partner is like me, frustration and desperation can sometimes lead to pleading, or even whimpering. Take, for instance, the following scene. I’m in bed with my wife, with lots of touching and extensive foreplay. We feel each other’s bodies, kiss, and stroke each other’s hair. She removes my device and strokes my penis. My erection is raging, pulsating, as I haven’t been out of the device in over a month. I want her so, so badly.
I lay on my back and she straddles me, rubbing the tip of my cock up and down the length of her opening. Finally, the moment I’ve been waiting for. She guides me inside of her, and the head of my penis slips in. I revel in her feel, her warmth. I thrust upward, expecting to push my cock deeper inside, to feel her completely. However, as I push, she lifts her body up, and I never get any deeper. I come back down, and she does too. I push upward once again, lifting my buttocks off the bed, and again she moves up with me so that my penis never makes it in past the tip. The process repeats itself. I’m getting so sexually frustrated. Finally, she says “that’s all for tonight, I’m tired and I don’t want to get all sweaty”.
My rubber band is unwinding at an alarming rate, and I start to plead. “Please, please, I want to be inside you.” “I’ll do anything.” I whimper. I whine.
Rather than giving in, my wife says “Ohhhh, I know how hard this must be for you. I really do, but there’s nothing I can do about it honey.” “Why?” I say. She says “I told you why. I don’t want to get all sweaty. I feel bad for you, I really do. I know it’s difficult, and I know you must be super, super horny. “But, but, you won’t get sweaty, and you can always take a shower,” I say. She replies “Ohhhh, honey, I know how badly you want to be inside me right now, I really, really do…but it’s not going to happen tonight my love. It’s just not.”
There’s something very exciting when I’m shown empathy immediately after being denied. This is because my wife is telling me that she completely understands the way I feel, the predicament I’m in, yet doesn’t seem as though she’s going to do anything about it. There’s a bit of a sadistic theme here that excites to no end.
Stage Four is all about showing empathy, but in order to be integral to an intense tease and denial scene, it must be followed up with Stage 5.
Stage Five – Maintain Your Position
In Stage Four, you’ve shown your partner empathy after denying him/her, and now, in Stage Five, you must maintain your position.
This means the end of empathy and the beginning of the hard-line. This is when you reinforce the level of control, and even extend it. You do this by telling your partner exactly what you want to happen at this point. In the example I used in Stage Four, my wife might say “Enough, I’ve made my decision. Now I want that erection gone so that I can put the device back on where it belongs.”
Even though I’ve been denied and the door has been closed, there is a feeling of warmth flowing through my body. The control excites me, and the feeling of denial, while still intense, is also quite pleasurable, and powerful.
And now, if you really want to ratchet up the intensity, you extend your position (you can even stretch the truth to add more excitement). You say to your partner, “Honey, you know that this is how I want things to be. If I want to have sex, I will. If not, then I won’t. I am the one in control. In fact, you are going to be kept locked up for quite a while. We went down this path, and I don’t want to turn back now. I haven’t really mentioned it to you yet, because I don’t want you to freak out, but I might as well tell you.”
Your partner says “What? Tell me what?” You say “Well, I have more intense orgasms with your tongue, and I don’t have to do nearly as much work that way, so I am finding less of a need to unlock you. So I thought about it, and I’d like to go a full year without an orgasm for you. I may or may not let you out of your device during that time, I haven’t really decided. But letting you out is becoming more a chore than anything else for me at this point, so I am basing my decision on that, and that alone. So right now I want that device back on, and if you don’t agree, I don’t really care. That is what’s happening.”
I hope you enjoyed this post. Remember, for intense tease and denial, follow the Five Stages:
Arouse and Excite
Build Intensity and Anticipation
Maintain Your Position
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Last Updated on 5 months by pseudonymous